Comments on: Thoughts on Parenting http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001 Wed, 08 Sep 2010 23:28:40 -0600 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: clare http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6245 clare Fri, 05 Mar 2010 02:36:49 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6245 I agree to listen is to get to the answer. We have recently been walking our 11 year old through the loss of a good friend. What has really amazed me is the calm and centred way he has approached it...and the more listening, the more waiting for the moment, I have done the easier it has been to walk him through. Listening, waiting, breathing and laughing. The keys to good parenting! I agree to listen is to get to the answer. We have recently been walking our 11 year old through the loss of a good friend. What has really amazed me is the calm and centred way he has approached it…and the more listening, the more waiting for the moment, I have done the easier it has been to walk him through. Listening, waiting, breathing and laughing. The keys to good parenting!

]]> By: Polly P http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6229 Polly P Tue, 02 Mar 2010 21:54:47 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6229 What everyone said above, for one. Nodded and so appreciated the wisdom throughout. This part: <blockquote>Parenting requires you to navigate the tempestuous seas of your childrens’ emotions in a leaky row boat with a broken oar. </blockquote> Ouch. So true. My problem is I think I broke one of the oars myself, wacking it against something in a menopausal fit. Lose the other regularly. So oftentimes I wind up rowing around in a circle, like a flea in the toilet bowl (ewwwwwww). But you totally have it, Vikki: listening. Paying attention. That's it. Your kids are so fortunate to have you trying so hard. And we're so fortunate to listen to you as you do. Thank you. What everyone said above, for one. Nodded and so appreciated the wisdom throughout. This part:
Parenting requires you to navigate the tempestuous seas of your childrens’ emotions in a leaky row boat with a broken oar.

Ouch. So true. My problem is I think I broke one of the oars myself, wacking it against something in a menopausal fit. Lose the other regularly. So oftentimes I wind up rowing around in a circle, like a flea in the toilet bowl (ewwwwwww).

But you totally have it, Vikki: listening. Paying attention. That’s it. Your kids are so fortunate to have you trying so hard. And we’re so fortunate to listen to you as you do.

Thank you.

]]> By: Chick http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6219 Chick Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:49:54 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6219 wait, so how is it that you have time to parent, to post *and* to think about these things??????? i'm jealous. wait, so how is it that you have time to parent, to post *and* to think about these things??????? i’m jealous.

]]> By: Susan http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6209 Susan Thu, 25 Feb 2010 17:26:19 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6209 Yes, our children will break our hearts, however we have to lay the groundwork so they won't steal our social security checks. One simple way to do that is to have a family meeting and invite them to volunteer for <a href="www.raisingable.com" rel="nofollow">chores</a>around the house. It teaches responsibility and teamwork. Family meetings teach family members to listen to each other, especially when the children take a turn leading them. Parenting is the toughest job you'll ever love. Yes, our children will break our hearts, however we have to lay the groundwork so they won’t steal our social security checks.
One simple way to do that is to have a family meeting and invite them to volunteer for choresaround the house.
It teaches responsibility and teamwork. Family meetings teach family members to listen to each other, especially when the children take a turn leading them. Parenting is the toughest job you’ll ever love.

]]> By: Nicole http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6208 Nicole Thu, 25 Feb 2010 17:18:11 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6208 I've been reading your blog for several months and really enjoy it. This made me cry, today I am stressing about the parent teacher conference we have for one of our boys. Your post said everything exactly . Thank you I’ve been reading your blog for several months and really enjoy it. This made me cry, today I am stressing about the parent teacher conference we have for one of our boys. Your post said everything exactly . Thank you

]]> By: Deborah http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6207 Deborah Thu, 25 Feb 2010 06:34:52 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6207 Definitely fridge-worthy. I must remember that my kids will grow up...in spite of me, and I can only do my best. To listen and appreciate them is to take a huge step in the right direction down Doing My Best Avenue. It's a challenging road for us all, and you are navigating it beautifully. Definitely fridge-worthy. I must remember that my kids will grow up…in spite of me, and I can only do my best. To listen and appreciate them is to take a huge step in the right direction down Doing My Best Avenue. It’s a challenging road for us all, and you are navigating it beautifully.

]]> By: leigh http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6205 leigh Wed, 24 Feb 2010 23:22:48 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6205 beautiful post listening and believing i think i was 44 when i was finally able to articulate to my mother "please do not worry about me ... believe in me that is all i need for you to do - believe in me" beautiful post
listening and believing
i think i was 44 when i was finally able to articulate to my mother
“please do not worry about me … believe in me that is all i need for you to do – believe in me”

]]> By: Ellen http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6204 Ellen Wed, 24 Feb 2010 23:15:59 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6204 Parenting is exceptionally hard work, thank you for this post. Being a parent triggers our own unresolved issues and helps us to become less judgmental people! Parenting is exceptionally hard work, thank you for this post. Being a parent triggers our own unresolved issues and helps us to become less judgmental people!

]]> By: Amie http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6202 Amie Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:39:36 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6202 This brought tears to my eyes! You are so right. Someone once said to me that when you have kids you learn what it's like to have your heart walking around outside your body. I'll tell you one thing, being a parent has made me a much more empathetic teacher, that's for sure. Because every kid has someone for whom they are the world. It's important for me to remember that--this post helped. This brought tears to my eyes! You are so right. Someone once said to me that when you have kids you learn what it’s like to have your heart walking around outside your body. I’ll tell you one thing, being a parent has made me a much more empathetic teacher, that’s for sure. Because every kid has someone for whom they are the world. It’s important for me to remember that–this post helped.

]]> By: Deb on the Rocks http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001&cpage=1#comment-6201 Deb on the Rocks Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:18:56 +0000 http://uppoppedafox.com/?p=2001#comment-6201 This got to me. It's increasingly much more complicated. Much more complicated. Beautifully written. This got to me. It’s increasingly much more complicated. Much more complicated. Beautifully written.

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